Tip For Meeting Women #7: Killer First Date Strategies
So, you’ve been talking to a girl for a while online. That’s awesome.
She seems into you, which is even better. You might have some common interests (or at least think you do), you might be really into each other, and you might both be pretty fired up to meet.
It’s time to learn how to take a girl you meet online out for a first date that will get her to close the deal FAST. You don’t just want to take her out, you want her to be excited to go out with you. You want her to be THRILLED to spend time with you, and even more thrilled at the idea of spending a little MORE time together after the date is officially “over.”
Yeah, this is about how to get her into bed, fast.
The first thing you’re going to have to do is pick a place.
You might think that it’s a good idea to meet for dinner. Sorry, friend. That’s a terrible idea. First of all, you’re going to wind up paying for that dinner. If you come across in your profile as a classy guy (and you will, if you follow our guide to setting up your profile), your girl is going to outright expect you to pay for dinner. This can wind up being expensive! If you pay for dinner, you’re going to be taking her to a nice restaurant, because no girl wants to go to Denny’s for the first date—and the kind of guy you want to come across as wouldn’t want to go there, either.
The other thing wrong with trying to take her out to dinner is that you’re going to be stuck there for a while. Do you really want to bet three hours of your life that you’re going to like this girl?
Skip the dinner, it’s an outdated concept anyway.
Instead, take your girl out to a nice lounge, or a hotel bar. Those are both classy enough places that a girl won’t feel gross or cheap going there, and the lighting and ambiance can only work in your favor.
Meet after dinner.
This is important, and not just so that you won’t have to pay for dinner. If you meet after dinner, there’s no chance that things will go well and she’ll suddenly think of another activity you can do.
Let’s be honest, there’s only one activity you’re going to want her to suggest after your drinks, and that’s not going to be expensive.
This next tip is extremely important, and far outstrips any “be yourself” corny crap we could suggest. Don’t drink unless she does.
Yes, even if you go to a lounge or bar, you still shouldn’t be the first one to touch alcohol. First of all, it’s a societal thing. For another thing, girls aren’t as confident as they want to be around drunk men, because they’re never sure how they’ll react. For a third reason, you’re not at your best when you’re drunk, and YOU aren’t sure how you’ll react. Fourth, it’s polite to let the woman make the first decision. If she knows that, it’s classy. If she doesn’t, you can gently explain it to her, and she’ll see you as a gentleman.
Finally, it’s cheaper not to drink. What other reason do you need?
Lastly, and very importantly, you should have an exit strategy. No, we’re not talking about how to get this girl to leave you alone, or how to get out of the date if everything goes poorly. Be real, it’s way more likely that she’s going to need an exit strategy—she’s the one weighing her options and deciding if you’re really the best choice for sex.
What you need is an exit strategy to get her out of the lounge and into bed quickly.
Here are a few tips to make sure you’re prepared for ending the date with class, while not rushing her anywhere odd:
- Pick a place that’s not too far from your house
- Have pretty close to exact cab fare if you’re planning on drinking
- Make SURE your house is passably clean. A woman WILL turn around and leave if it’s not, even if you get her all the way back to your apartment first.
- If you aren’t planning on taking her home (if you don’t live alone or it’s simply too far away), make sure you have a reservation for a hotel room nearby. In this case, simply meet her at a hotel lounge or bar, and reserve a room upstairs. Most hotels will let you do this, but cancel if you don’t wind up staying there. This way you don’t wind up paying if you don’t close the deal, so no money is wasted.
- For the love of god, shower first.