Some dudes like you, are interested in the older set. That’s totally cool; we’ve been there. You might not be interested in college babes or women in their twenties. You want a mature lady, one who knows what she wants in life and has probably got it. Maybe you’re interested in a woman in her forties, maybe fifties. Maybe even older. It’s all good, dude. No judgment from us, we promise. We have a couple of tips for any dude looking to meet an older lady that you should definitely look at before you go on a cougar hunt.
Consider the Kids Issue
Remember that older ladies have more time to become moms. It’s entirely possible that the lady you find may be a divorced or a single mom, have one kid or a few. Depending on her age and when she had them, these kids might be actual kids, or they might be in college or even older. If she does and they’re about twenty, she’ll probably be guarded about who she dates. She might be interested in seeing you, but it’s going to be on her terms. You probably won’t go to her house for the night; she’ll come to yours for a couple of hours before going home to pay the babysitter or so that her oldest kid doesn’t have to be responsible overnight. Respect that. Consider where she’s coming from: you’re a guy she’s still getting to know and developing trust. She doesn’t know your entire background. For all she knows at the start, you’re using her to get to her barely-legal daughter. We know that’s not your intention, but she doesn’t at first. Later, she might not want to introduce you to her kids because she doesn’t want to confuse them. She might not introduce you to her kids until you’ve been together for six months or more, and that’s totally cool. No one wants kids to start to think of some dude as their new dad, only to have him vanish and Mom to move on to a new guy who takes the same role.
Remember Her Possible Body Insecurity
One of the nice things about dating older women is that a lot of them don’t need to be reassured about their looks. Not all older women are Helen Mirren, but plenty are hot. Though, it’s possible that the older lady of your dreams has other body issues than if her butt looks fat in those jeans. Keep in mind that, if she has kids, she might worry if she’s too loose. She might not like her saggy rack or the stretch marks on her stomach. You might be totally cool with everything and love her body as it is. Just like with younger women, you need to show that. Tell her that. When you first hook up, compliment her at least once a week. She’s a lady; she deserves to hear it. Make sure she does.